If you are referencing the Household List - Contact Information report, the selection criteria is for the status of the Household, not the status of the individuals. So selecting 'Active' result in all active households - which is determined by the status of the individuals in the household. If there is one active person, the household is active. Then for each active household, it will list all members and show the status of each person.
For only active members, you would need to use the Clubber List - Contact Information, or the Leader List - Contact Information report, but of course, those don't group members by family.